Family Violence, Protection & AVO
Family violence is a significant issue that currently attracts close attention across both the legal and social spheres in Australia. In recent years — whether in family law reform, the protection of children’s safety, or the way courts approach risk management — this area has received sustained and clear emphasis. Australian law protects victims of family violence principally on two levels: criminal law and family law.
The focus of criminal law — for example, the Crimes (Domestic and Personal Violence) Act 2007 (NSW) — is on protecting the victim’s personal safety and prescribing the relevant penalties. The focus of family law is whether the conduct in question has had a real impact on the financial circumstances of the relationship, the care arrangements, future capacity to provide for oneself, and the safety and wellbeing of the children.
For this reason, the definition of family violence under criminal law focuses on whether the perpetrator’s conduct has caused physical or psychological harm to the victim — for example, assault, stalking, intimidation, or threats; whereas the definition of family violence under family law, in addition to the conduct above, also includes ongoing personal control, financial control, restricting social contact, psychological manipulation, repeated humiliation, and restricting freedom to work, and even applying pressure through financial means — all of which may constitute legally significant family violence within the family law framework.
Protection Pathway One — Restraining Orders (Criminal Law):
In New South Wales, where there is violence, threats, intimidation, harassment, stalking, or any other concerning risk to personal safety within a relationship involving a family member, partner, former partner, or other close relation, the law can provide immediate protection through a protection order (Apprehended Violence Order, or AVO).
The core purpose of an AVO is not to punish but to prevent risk and protect safety. The court can make an order restraining the other person from engaging in certain conduct — for example, prohibiting them from approaching, contacting, harassing, or threatening the protected person, or from attending that person’s home, workplace, or other specified locations. In higher-risk cases, the court may also impose stricter restrictions.
Many clients mistakenly believe that a protection order can only be applied for after serious physical violence has occurred. In fact, this is not necessarily the case. Ongoing threats, stalking, harassment, intimidation, or conduct posing a personal-safety risk that causes a person to reasonably fear for their safety may also be sufficient to form the basis for applying for a protection order.
Where the conduct already involves a criminal offence — for example, actual assault, property damage, threats to cause harm, or breaching a court order — the police may also become involved in the investigation and, depending on the circumstances, lay criminal charges. A protection order is therefore a separate concept from a criminal prosecution, but in practice the two often arise together. For a party who is experiencing risk, this kind of protective measure is often one of the most direct and immediate legal tools available.
> For the application process for an AVO, the court procedure, police involvement, and the legal consequences of breaching an AVO, we provide a dedicated explanation in the Criminal Law section. ⇒ ‣
Protection Pathway Two — Property Settlement:
Although family violence does not automatically leave the party at fault with nothing or cause the affected party to “win more property”, where the relevant conduct has had a real impact on the financial circumstances of the relationship or on a party’s future capacity to provide for themselves, the court may well give it weight in the property settlement.
In the past, the impact of family violence on property settlement developed gradually, mainly through case law; in recent years, family law reform has further clarified that the court may consider the financial impact caused by family violence. This means that family violence is no longer merely part of the background to a case, but may directly affect the court’s assessment of overall fairness.
In practice, common situations that may affect a property settlement include:
- One party being unable to maintain stable employment due to prolonged fear, control, or psychological oppression;
- Being restricted from accessing bank accounts, income, or shared financial resources;
- Being forced to take on unreasonable debts or financial liabilities;
- Having employment, study, or career-development opportunities controlled or undermined;
- Suffering deteriorating health, reduced capacity to work, or impaired future earning capacity as a result of prolonged family violence;
One party carrying significantly more of the caring responsibilities over a long period during the relationship, resulting in limited opportunities for economic advancement.
For example, one client, over the course of a long relationship, was forced to leave their employment and lost their source of income because of the other party’s persistent control and threats, and was responsible for the children’s care over a long period. Even though the family’s assets had, on the surface, been accumulated jointly, the court may nonetheless consider that the family violence within this relationship had substantially diminished that party’s future economic capacity, and thereby affect the outcome of the property adjustment.
Likewise, financial control (financial abuse) is also a matter to which courts pay close attention in family law cases.
Such situations may include:
- One party having complete control over the family’s accounts;
- Restricting the other party’s access to funds;
- Forcing the other party to sign loan or financial documents;
- Concealing assets;
- Using financial means to force the other party to remain in a relationship of dependence;
Using financial pressure to control divorce negotiations or living arrangements.
Many clients do not realise until their case begins that this kind of conduct is not merely “unfair” or “a problem within the relationship”, but may already constitute legally significant family violence.
That said, family law cases ultimately still rest on a foundation of evidence.
The court will not make a favourable finding simply because one party makes an allegation. The truly critical question is usually this:
whether the conduct can be clearly proven, and whether the connection between that conduct and the financial outcome can be reasonably demonstrated.
For this reason, in property cases involving family violence, the focus is often not simply on asserting that “the other party is in the wrong”, but on how to translate these impacts into well-structured evidentiary material that the court can understand and accept.
Protection Pathway Three — Children’s Arrangements:
If property settlement is concerned with fairness, then the central concern of children’s arrangements is the safety and best interests of the child. In cases involving children, family violence is often one of the matters the court treats most seriously.
A common misconception is: “My partner hasn’t hit the children — the violence is only directed at me, so will this affect the children’s arrangements?” It is entirely possible that it will. Family law does not look only at whether a child has been hit; it equally considers:
- Whether the child is exposed to a high-conflict environment;
- Whether the child has, over a long period, witnessed threatening, argumentative, controlling, or intimidating behaviour;
- Whether the home environment has caused the child anxiety, fear, or psychological stress;
- Whether one party’s behaviour reflects an ongoing risk or problems with loss of emotional control;
Whether the current arrangements are sufficient to safeguard the child’s safety.
In other words, a child being “exposed to an environment of family violence” may, in itself, be an important consideration for the court.
Situations to which the court pays particularly close attention typically include:
- Physical violence;
- Threatening or intimidating behaviour;
- Stalking, harassing, or controlling behaviour;
- Extreme emotional instability;
- Alcohol- or drug-related risks;
- Using the child as a tool in the conflict;
- Persistently creating conflict during changeovers;
The child displaying marked anxiety, resistance to contact, or unusual emotional responses.
Many clients mistakenly believe that the court will only find a family violence issue where there is a criminal conviction, a police record, or a restraining order. That is not so; what the family law court looks at is this: on the evidence as a whole, whether the child is, or may in future be, in an unsafe environment. If the court considers that a risk exists, the children’s arrangements may well be significantly affected. For example:
- Requiring supervised visitation;
- Limiting contact time;
- Adjusting the location or manner of changeovers;
- Requiring communication through a third party;
- Restricting certain forms of direct contact;
In serious cases, having one party take primary responsibility for major long-term decisions.
In more serious cases, the issue of family violence may even become the central dispute in the entire children’s matter.
Frequently Asked Questions
The other party has committed family violence — will I definitely get a more favourable outcome in the property settlement?
Not necessarily, but this kind of situation may indeed affect the court’s assessment.
Family violence does not automatically cause one party to “win” in a property settlement, and the court will not adjust the division of property simply because allegations of conflict exist. What truly matters is whether the relevant conduct has had a real impact on the financial circumstances of the relationship, financial contributions, future earning capacity, or stability of living arrangements.
For example, where one party has lost employment opportunities, taken on additional debt, been unable to access shared financial resources, or carried more of the caring responsibilities over a long period as a result of prolonged control, threats, or financial oppression, all of these factors may be taken into account in the property settlement.
The other party has not been violent towards the children and has only threatened, controlled, or assaulted me — can this still affect the children’s arrangements?
It is entirely possible.
The family law court is concerned not only with whether the child has “directly suffered physical harm”, but also with whether the child has been exposed over a long period to an unsafe or high-conflict environment.
If a child continually witnesses threats, arguments, controlling, intimidating, or emotionally unrestrained behaviour, then even though such behaviour is, on the surface, directed mainly at the other parent, the court may nonetheless consider that the child has already been adversely affected, or that a safety risk exists for the future.
In such situations, the court may adjust the contact arrangements, the manner of changeovers, and the communication mechanisms, and may even require supervised contact where necessary.
If there has been no report to the police, no restraining order, and no criminal case, will the family law court still consider these matters?
Yes.
Family law and criminal law address fundamentally different questions. The absence of police involvement, of a restraining order, or even of a criminal conviction does not mean that the conduct did not occur, nor does it mean that the family law court cannot consider these facts.
Family law is more concerned with patterns of behaviour within the relationship, their real-world impact, and the management of future risk. So long as the relevant circumstances can be reasonably demonstrated through evidence, the court may well take them into account in its assessment.
I am still living with the other party, or I have to stay in contact because of matters involving the children — will this affect my ability to make claims relating to family violence?
Not necessarily.
In reality, family relationships are often far more complex than legal concepts suggest. The existence of family violence does not mean that the parties must already have separated completely, nor that all contact will immediately cease. Particularly where there is shared accommodation, financial dependence, child-care arrangements, communication about pick-ups and drop-offs, or a practical division of day-to-day responsibilities, it is not in itself unusual for the parties to remain in contact.
For example, some people continue to live temporarily under the same roof even after the relationship has seriously deteriorated, because they cannot find alternative accommodation in the short term, or are temporarily unable to arrange their lives independently in financial terms; in other cases, the parties have already separated but still need to maintain a degree of contact because of the children’s day-to-day arrangements, school pick-ups and drop-offs, medical decisions, or other necessary communication.
These facts do not, in themselves, automatically negate claims relating to family violence.
The court is more concerned with the overall context of the relationship and the practical reasons why such contact occurs, for example:
Whether communication is unavoidable because of arrangements for the children;
Whether there is financial dependence or practical constraints on housing;
Whether one party remains in a controlling relationship;
Whether the contact is a matter of dealing with necessary affairs, rather than the continuation of a normal intimate relationship;
Whether there is ongoing fear, pressure, or an unequal power dynamic.
Of course, the way the facts are presented in a case still matters. If, on the one hand, a party asserts a serious safety risk while, on the other, there is a substantial and sustained pattern of behaviour clearly inconsistent with that assertion, the court may naturally examine the overall evidentiary context more closely. This does not mean that the claim cannot succeed, but rather that the case needs to be presented with greater care and structure.
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